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The Program - Assumptions

As a friend of mine frequently says, "Assume is made up of three words, 'ass,' 'u,' and 'me'." So that you know what I'm assuming, here's a list of things that I'm assuming (and have realized) about you and what you're looking for:


  • You're straight.

  • You've been called "a nice guy," "sweet," "a nice young man" or something of that nature on a fairly regular basis.

  • You are seldom, if ever, described as an "asshole."

  • You are 21 or older.

  • You are fairly modern in outlook. ("Women don't get equal pay for equal work? Why not?")

  • You want to date.

  • You realize you have a problem.

What you're looking for

  • A long-term relationship.
    Note: most of this will probably work as well for a one-night stand — no moral judgements, but if you do that, wear a condom.

  • Someone who is also nice.

  • Someone physically attractive. (No more than 10 pounds more overweight than you are proportionally and whatever other requirements you may have.)

  • Someone who is somewhat your equal.

Assumptions I'm NOT Making

  • You're of a particular religion. (I'm a devout agnostic).

  • You're goofy looking.

  • You're handsome

Assumptions that I made originally but am trying to correct

  • You're under 40.
Now that you understand where I'm coming from, let's take a look at your problem.

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